Do you think feminism exists ? are women empowered? if so yes, are women using their liberty in the right way? is freedom misinterpreted or misused by women?

“I raise up my voice—not so I can shout, but so that those without a voice can be heard…we cannot succeed when half of us are held back.” ―Malala Yousafzai

One of my friend was journeying through a bus. She witnessed two scenarios which I wanted to share it with you guys. Two rows ahead of my friend was sitting a lady named Lax(pseudo name)with her one-year-old baby, next to her sat her husband. Besides Lax, there was a woman standing named Mag(pseudo name) who was leaning on Lax because of the rush inside the bus.

Lax didn’t like Mag leaning on her, so she said Mag not to lean on her just move and stand. Mag replied, “there is no place to move here and moreover you are little out of your seat please make yourselves comfortable by moving in”. By hearing this Lax got furious and threw words, at Mag, “I said not to lean and didn’t ask for your advice”. Offended Mag spoke back with patience but Lax paid no heed to Mag. There broke out a quarrel which involved among four people Lax, Mag and their spouses. unanticipatedly  Lax’s husband banged Mag’s husband. Everyone on the bus was dumbfounded. Both the couples were made to offboard from the bus.

What just happened??? what did both women accomplish by doing this??? what is the necessity for that guy to raise his hand on someone??? what made him do that???

One more scenario on the bus, A lady boarded the bus and conductor asked for the destination where the lady confirmed. The conductor gave her the ticket and asked for the cash, she said she has the bus pass for a month. The conductor replied, “If you have pass you should show it beforehand, now a ticket has wasted”. The lady got agitated started conversing in a bitter way at the conductor and the conductor spoke back and the verbal fight commenced. As it was flowing the lady smacked the conductor. What??? yes, you heard it right. It was the lady who smacked. Will the male ego give way for it??? he slapped her right there. The bus was taken to the police station and arguments went on and finally, the conductor was charged with slapping the lady.

In both the scenarios if the women had been patient, if they had known their morals there is nothing to happen like this. We talk a lot about freedom, women empowerment, feminism, equity but we forget to use it in the right way. Since we have our freedom to speak and act doesn’t mean hitting a man is right. Once women were considered as weaker sex until today we are trying to break it.

Women might be vulnerable yet self-assured

Women being kind perceived as a weakness but you know that’s your strength

Women act less, lesser they act the more control over the situation

Women don’t expect love but shower more

Womanhood is so beautiful, the beauty is given the liberty to enjoy it. The freedom tastes sweet only when enjoyed with peace. Once it becomes a hindrance to others it becomes bitter. Women have the capability to achieve things with all beautiful qualities she possesses like Elegance, kindness, loving, morals, humble, courage and lot more. Not only these two situations happen. I  witness it everywhere I go.

In restaurants, we don’t have the patience to wait until our food is delivered. We shout at the waiter irrespective of the age. We are taught to respect our elders. Getting freedom in no way should change the respect given to them. How long are we going to do this? until men join their hands and start something like MENISIM? that day will be too late to regret women.

We forget to say sorry for hurting someone in the name of freedom to talk

We forget to say please in the name of freedom for  human rights

We ignore to cook for our spouse in the name of freedom for equality

Men can cook but women can cook with love which makes the family healthier. Expecting your spouse to cook is nothing wrong but ceasing to cook for them in the name of liberty, equality is completely erring. Thank god women are not given the choice for carrying a baby else again it’s like “we are carrying it for years why can’t men do it now”. We don’t understand, ask motherhood its a bliss, not a burden. At the end of the day, it’s choices you both make but my point is, it should not be compelled by the name of freedom.

                            Being bold  is always misinterpreted as being loud

 

xoxo,
Mita