In today’s busy world both men and women are equally hustling around to earn their livelihood. A week’s time away from the office was quite refreshing. But all of sudden 21 days of lockdown was a big hit for all of them😯. Especially couples who stayed away from each other for at least 9 hours in a day at work are forced to see their partner for 24 hours. I heard my friend saying there are lots of divorce cases getting filed now😄

If you are one among them who wakes up from the bed and hits back again, pulling back the blanket and cuddling with it for a long time and realizing you are late to login to work, quickly jumps out of your bed. Who enters the kitchen finds the unfinished vessels sparkling at you which was left as it is as you were watching Netflix last night. Who makes a bedtime coffee for your husband who gulps it down without even opening his eyes. Who hurries back to the kitchen and holds bread at one hand and batter at another hand confused to choose between the two to make for breakfast. Finally drops them and reaches the fruit basket and picks the fruits which are about to expire tomorrow and completes the first round of the meal and settles down with the laptop to work. Who stares at the clock waiting for the team call and planning to take a break after the call, there comes your husband asking for the second round of coffee or tea. Making it for him and planning to take a break, the clock strikes 11 AM and rushing back to the kitchen to prepare lunch. Finally taking a seat to place your hands on the laptop looking at your mails and again strikes the ding dong, time for lunch. Who eats the food monotonously watching Netflix for another half an hour and gets back to work. Who winds up the office work at 6 ‘o clock and return back to the kitchen to make dinner. Eventually finding time to talk to your partner. That is the time you talk something that ignites a fight and afterward, you don’t talk to each other and being in the same house, no other entertainment seeing each other adds fuel to it. I know, I feel it😉 Here are a few things you can make your lockdown period much better. Use this time to know your man or women better. Let them know you too.

Plan your day

Don’t take your days for granted. Since you are inside your house 24/7 doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plan your day. If you start your day by journaling just go with it. If you start your day by exercising just do it. If not planning your day then your mind is unoccupied. You are unaware of what to do and automatically you start dragging your partner who might be having some other plans. When they are unable to do something they wanted to, they get pissed off. So commence your day by doing something really important that matters to you.

Share your work

Women cook every day and run to the office. Mr.Husband, please don’t think she can cook without hustle since she is at home. Why don’t you help her since you are too staying at home? A woman always finds happiness in cooking for her husband. Doesn’t she deserve small happiness from you guys at least helping her to cook??? It’s a new hobby for you as well. Not only cooking, if she cooks you can cut vegetables. If she washes vessels help her arranging them. This not only reduces the burden of your spouse, but it also keeps you occupied. When you do things together it increases your bond. You share lots of things. You have a lot many to talk to and laugh about.

Having a common activity

Have a common activity which both of you enjoy. When it’s done together it is more fun. If you like to work out together just do it. If you wanted to dance raise the volume until your roof falls down and rock the floor. Trust me its more fun to dance together. There is no need to learn dance, you can just shake your hands and legs. Dance has no form. If you guys enjoy watching Netflix then choose a series where you both sit together and watch. So when its the time for series you guys will leave all the work and come together and watch it. Its simply fun guys try it out.

Alone time for yourself

Having a self-time is equally important as having a common activity. You both cannot always stick to each other all the time. In reality, it’s not possible. Forever don’t expect your partner to be with you. If he wants to play with his play station let him do it. If that relaxes him then you will have to do it. If he wants to spend his time on his phone don’t tell him that he spends too much time with his mobile. Its lockdown period guys, you cannot do anything else. We are into the digital world more often. Just relax and chill. He is with you helping you with house chores, both of you are doing an activity together still you wanted him to be with you? Give their own space eventually things will fall in place.

If nothing seems to work and you find your partner is too much into his or her own zone. Voice out, talk to them, tell how do you feel about them. Give a chance for them to understand. There are people who understand without telling them but for most of them, it needs to be said. In a week’s time, my husband has done all these to make me feel good and I have also understood to give him his own space. Dont take too much stress. Stay safe at home and make it useful at this time and make it more interesting and fun. If you think there are a couple of other things that can be fun for couples please do share in the comments.

xoxo,

Mita